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June 11 Talking leads to resolving!!Speaking or expressing your thoughts is very important. Sometimes differences enter a relationship.. any relationship.. official, personal, casual, if we do not clear out things. In case you have an issue with some one, speak.. clear the things.. talking will actually lead to resolving the issues.. It would be bad to spoil a relationship only because we were not able to express our self. We will repent on this, sometimes, all life, thinking that if we had cleared out the things, it would have been better!!. It’s better to say n express yourself rather than repent the whole life. We often don't express our feelings for the fear of losing a relationship U know, I have experienced many situations where I was not happy about sumthng happening still I didn’t expressed myself just because of the fear that I may not be right… or I may be wrong.. These things scared me.. n I remained clueless for what was happening at that point of time, I always prayed god to interfere, but… things never became easy.. n the situations worsened But today I am a changed person.. I clear my doubts very early… not thinking what the other person may think about me…. That’s why life has changed… don’t leave anything to god.. coz I have learnt that god helps them who help themselves!!!!!!!! So.. my dear friend.. say… speak what you feel like.. clear the air.. by talking.. after all .. u also want to resolve it!!!! Trust me… nothing will be better than this.. June 01 Integrity will win in the endFor the first time in many months Wafers realised the import of what her professor had once told the class. He had said: "In life you will almost always be let down by the very people whom you have trusted the most." At that time she had smiled. How could someone close to you let you down, she had wondered. Her friend had pointed out to the Greg-Ganguly spat, but Wafers let it sail, as she wasn't sure who had let down whom.
The professor had gone on to add, "When you do a person a favour, howsoever significant it might be, never expect a return favour. Remember, life is about free lunches." The events of the last few weeks were proving him right. Her best friend of many years was behaving strangely. Her highly respectable colleague at office had shocked her. She had helped them so often in the past with their power-point presentations. Today, when she needed help on a report, they were actually avoiding her. "Hey, I am working on a deadline, I will revert to you tomorrow". Tomorrow never came. It was a humbling experience.
Her professor had closed out, "When they don't bail you out, and sugar coat their behaviour; don't hold it against them." Wafers realised that this was the only way to retain sanity. The professor had continued, "After all, at one point you had trusted them. Maybe they are really unable to help you and aren't saying so in that many words. And it is also very possible that just like them you might have hurt someone similar."
Today, as she remembered her professor's words Wafers tried to check whether she too might have let someone down, unintentionally. Maybe her parents, whom she might have just taken for granted. Unintentionally.
Corporate shenanigans
Working in the corporate environment Wafers very rapidly lost her innocence. A few months into her first job and Wafers had her early feel of the shenanigans that ruled the corporate world. On the outside people appeared calm and unruffled but deep inside it looked like they were jockeying hard for the space that was becoming narrower as they climbed the corporate ladder. What shocked her most was the lying and posturing that went with almost everything. A week ago, the business unit head had given her team leader (TL) a job to be completed in 48 hours. The TL had bargained for 96 hours and finally settled for 72. The job was assigned to Wafers and she completed it in 24 hours. When she learnt that her TL had got 72 hours by convincing the boss that they were all pressed for time, she was surprised. Actually she had ample time with her. The TL then gave her first lesson in corporate life, "Under promise, but over deliver."
Another day, she saw two team leaders, Ranjan and Rohit, conversing. They reported to a common boss. And the two had been assigned different jobs. Ranjan told Rohit that he had completed 60 per cent of the job and Rohit told Ranjan he had completed 80 per cent of his job. Later Wafers learnt that while Rohit was speaking the truth, Ranjan was economical with it. He had actually almost finished the job.
Next morning Ranjan handed over his report ahead of Rohit. When Rohit asked Ranjan as to how he managed it, Ranjan remarked, "Hey I burnt the midnight oil." When Wafers confronted Ranjan, he said, it was a "harmless lie" and "anyway, by letting Rohit not know of the actual status of my work I let him slip on his guard. Tomorrow when the time for promotions comes, this will help me."
To Wafers that was the second corporate lesson, "Keep your competitor, even if he is your colleague, in the dark." She didn't like that one jot, but that looked to be the reality.
Busy or uninterested?
One day she took time to talk to the man to whom she reported, whom she admired and respected a lot. She poured her heart out. About how what she was seeing in the corporate world was so very different from what she had learnt when she grew up. About trust, honesty, loyalty and friendship. She told him about the loss of trust. How she had to every time second guess the real import of what her colleague meant whenever he said something. She told him about the loss of honesty. To her if you did not keep your word you were dishonest. If you gave your word without the intention of honouring it you were dishonest.
She told him about the loss of loyalty. To her if you gave up your job to join a competitor you weren't being loyal. If you used the office to search for a job via the web site you were being disloyal. She told him about how these were affecting friendships. How friendship cultivated with great care over the years were crumbling at the drop of a hat over petty, minor things that should have in the first place not erupted. How people were rapidly moving on in relationships burying old ones and creating new ones as though it was like moving from reading one book to another.
She wondered whether she was a misfit in the new world.
Changed times
The sane sober head explained to her that times had changed. That in today's world people took care of themselves. That people keep changing the definition of professionalism to suit their convenience. "If you delay on a job, you are inefficient; if I delay it because I am hard pressed for time." Today, many believed that by bending to the winds of change you were professional. Wafers couldn't buy it. And it was then that the Head told her something that she would remember forever.
He said: "In the end, you must stick to core values. If you want to reach the top you must have integrity. And integrity means being trustworthy, honest, loyal and keeping one's friendships." And added, "Whatever people may say and do they at their end, they expect their leaders to practice these good virtues. If you want to be a leader practise these unmindful of whether the world outside is trustworthy or not."
May 29 Whom do you Sacrifice??
A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. February 28 This professional life is not my cup of tea.....I cant believe it…. Finally I got myself enrolled for the SALSA classes.. wow.. wat fun.. & the too gud thing bout it is dat they are very near to my home… hardly half a kilometer… I always had a wish to ‘learn’ dance… although em a gud dancer myself.. but salsa is the most ‘in’ thing these days… i decided to get myself enrolled for the classes as soon as I saw the sign board of “ALEE club” quoting.. learn salsa, jazz, hiphop,… bla bla bla..… after all this is wat I wanted all my life.. (sounds too stupid to say dat, but its true.. I love it) I called up my friend to as she has similar dreams… but in vain… she refused giving stupid reasons starting from high fees to no time at all! I had no companion.. still, my determination was too strong dat I decided to join the classes without her.. L & without even a partner.. (u have to have a partner for salsa)… L I got enrolled on Saturday to join on Sunday… aaaaahhhhhhh… I was looking forward to it… Sunday 11am was the ‘reporting time’… I got up early at 9 am (I would have slept till 12 noon if it was a normal Sunday.. without any classes).. & managed to reached by 10:45… some other class was going on.. I waited in the waiting lounge…… 11am and I was in the room… it was a big room… with a big mirror on one wall… goddess Saraswati on the other….. I did a pranam to mata saraswati n then looked at my instructors…. Both seemed younger to me.. & then I came to know… my instructor is my partner… ok.... he is a gud dancer… n had a cute smile… I liked him.. he taught me the salsa basics. At the end of the class, my instructors…. praised me for my dance…. I loved it…. J It was time to go back home…. I didn’t wanted to… I was enjoing it so much that I didn’t realized where this one hour of my Sunday “morning” had gone.. The first thing I did after reaching home was to call my frnd who had refused to join the classes to tell her the experience…… she was envious… jealous… n wat not… but I know… she had some inhibitions to join.. n I understand… after all both of us wanted to live our dream to perform… act, sing n dance… Often we tell each other… “yaar.. hum galat profession mein hain… hum is duniya ke liye nahi bane… hame stage pukaar raha hai…” & whenever we passed by NSD, our wish to join it became stronger….. often my frnds say… “tera talent waste jaa raha hai”… I know they say that mordantly… but its fun to hear dat…..
Next class was on Saturday.. I enrolled myself for the weekend batch… obviously.. cant think of taking the classes with my erratic working hours… waited for Saturday te whole week.. & then.. came to know on Friday evening that I will b working on Saturday…. No… no god.. u cant do dis to me… don’t take my class away from me……. Nahiiiiiiiii…. L… Saturday was too boring…… with this sadu report to b mailed to the client by Saturday evening… I was working .. in the office.. & had forgotten bout the classes… how can neone work on Saturday yaar… aur agar use report mil bhi gayi to woh kya kar lega…? Kaunsa teer mar lega…. This was my state of mind… ne how… I finished the report & mailed the same….
Since the time I joined the classes, my hate for my profession is becumng stronger. I feel like doing the things I enjoi the most… theatre… I will join NSD soon.. ya.. I will… J
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